When I left high-tech business enterprise that is at-home mom, I had no idea about the changes I was going to meet. No, I'm not talking about the usual baby stuff like not freaking out when food or something worse gets rubbed on my nice clothes ... If and when I get a chance, where beautiful clothes. Neither am I talking about the fact that I could have an unusual and expensive Knicks-knacks on my coffee table. What are you talking about something else ... and someone else. I'm talking about having to relate to one another, experienced, at home Mommies.
Of course, everything seemed fine. Friendly views of the park followed by a short break conversation, but having those little clicks are just as tricky, if not worse, than the ones I encountered, and the master came in the corporate environment. Although I was efficient in its conversation and quick with his wit, although I laughed at the right jokes and wearing proper clothing, and even when I stood in the widest opening of the park have all seen that I was available to talk, Mommies shied away from me. My best bet is to probably gathered in the far contrary to chuckle over his despair. Heck, I May even laughed at me that I was too distracted by the little cloud hovering post-partum depression.
can be compared to a city gal in the country. There are many movies with similar stories of loud and intrusive outsider that everyone sees as a square peg. While she was May want to fit in, she knows from the get-go he was going to be a long time, because everything feels the tension from his new peers. This is where I started to find my thoughts. (And let me tell you, if you think that your colleagues in Armani suits are pretentious, try clicking the mom-shirts and capris.'m Not joking, they can be clearly condescending.) While it is difficult to accept, it is a form of closure, after a year or so, I decided that I just was not going to fit in with the Bobby-socked, sneakered Mommies full during my day.
But then ... And here is a light at the end of the tunnel ... something happened. To this day I can not tell you how we came across each other, but I was invited to play on one of sneakered-Mommies. There I met another mama.Playdate started slowly and was light in the debate. No, it was consistent ... and remained consistent on a weekly basis. I began to look forward to my sessions. At that time, I did not know much about them, but every week that knowledge is growing. To make a long story short, friendship stuck. These days do not always see them as much as I can, but it's more hectic schedule of the problem of lack of want. As well, more Mommies come and I am proud of my little mama network that I have slowly gained. Farewell Armani, Gap halo.
several times since, I saw a new mom at the playground fresh from the corporate, probably on a trial period of this new career. I watch what the other Mommies have seen in me. There is a view of the uncertainty in the face of entry-level at-home mom. Maybe it's a mixture of "doing the right thing (I loved my job, not to mention money and recognition)," I am absolutely not the right thing (as evidenced by the toddling in front of me) and "How do I get a hell here (What a completely different world .) This uncertainty is projected on the facial expression, as well as through real conversation. i reflect and I believe that my uncertainty mixed with a mild case of PPD must have me a real stimulating conversation. it is no wonder that vodiosuprotnom direction. as well, trying to bring a corporate mentality in the position of the at-home mom is another stumbling block. i looked at building new relationships as a strategy to achieve, and then the master. When you really have what it takes to build relationships with other at-home Mommies is a real honesty and grounded sense of self. Only after this is done, and reinforces the dash cattiness can be added. However, the details of this issue are entirely different article.
the next time you encounter a corporate mom grasping for a sense of its new entry-level position, have patience and compassion. Yes, it is very likely could go awkward and perhaps even insulting, but most likely to succeed in this new career. Her mentor in a non-invasive way, and it has certainly become a great friend.
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